Misogynists and misandrists have the same problem. They expect ridiculous things of the other gender while expecting of themselves absolutely nothing. Because their expectations are as high as they are, nobody is able to meet them. Whenever a person fails to meet them, that gets used to claim that one has been right from the start that the other gender is bad.

I get angry when I see a good man in a bad relationship situation. There are so many good women out there with horrible partners, whenever a good man comes along he gets appropriated by some absolute horror of a woman who treats him like dirt. The experiences of such men then get used by the Father’s Lobby types to claim that misogynists have been right about women all along. In the same way, of course, as women experiencing domestic violence gets used by misandrists to claim that men are all bastards.

Sometimes such people want to be proven wrong. But that in itself stands to be a game. The standard is set exclusively high, and nobody can meet it. Any failure to meet it feeds greater misogyny or misandry. And it is the better people – both men and women – who get the worst of it.

If a person acts this way, it is viable to use a mirror. It is to ask, Do you expect of yourself what you expect of the other gender? That way the game is stopped in its tracks. It defeats both misogyny and misandry. And it helps the rest of us, who are not misogynists or misandrists, have good relationships.